Last time I explained about how our body speaks to us through whispers (yellow lights) and screams (red lights). Today let’s explore how we can take our experience into our work life.
Have you ever been to a yoga class where you came in tired and feeling like crap and left feeling great? At some point, as we go about our life, that feeling fades and we cycle back to feeling crappy again and we repeat.
When I work with my yoga therapy clients we seek to take that one or two steps further. I ask my clients to notice when this good feeling starts to fade. I ask, “When you notice – what are you doing?”
We can figure our yellow lights by noticing what is correlated to that change in feeling. A conversation might go like this:
Do you notice how at the end of the session you feel a bit brighter than earlier?
Do you notice that are standing taller now?
Can you feel the distinction between the two (standing taller vs feeling slumped; or feeling tired vs feeling energized)?
What becomes interesting is that if you notice when all this starts to fade you can start to catch the yellow lights. If you are someone who spends a lot of time in front of the computer or in the office, you can start to notice how the physical feeling of returning to your slump (opposite of standing tall) is related to how you are managing the business at work.
Think about this: how do you approach work when you are feeling bright and tall vs how you manage work when you are feeling tired and slumpy?
The business at work isn’t necessarily going to change or go away but what you can change is how you are with it. It’s like a yoga practice, you can push through the pain and develop tension in order to create a shape in a yoga pose (you’re with the pose in a strained relationship), or you can try smaller movements that are pain free (you’re with a pose in an easeful relationship) where you are nourishing a new way of being. [side note: you may have heard the phrase, how we are on the inside is a mirror of how we are on the outsideor how we do one thing is how we do everything– if you’re creating tension or pain in a yoga class you are likely doing the same thing at work and in your relationships. If you’re creating ease in your yoga practice, you have the ability to create ease at work and in your relationships.]
Now, when you leave the class or session, and you get back to work or whatever life requires of you, and then you notice you are doing a little bit of slumping, try maybe 1, 2 or 3 things so that you can shift up the slumping (maybe your teacher wrote out a program for you or you remember a pose that made you feel great) and then see how that shifts up how you are relating to the scenario at work. In my experience, when I feel strong and confident in my body, I relate to people and problems in a much different way, compared to when I felt tired and achy.
While I can’t fix you, I’m here to support you so that you can make the shifts to get to where you want to be. If you want to shift or change how you are feeling, you can’t keep doing everything the same as before. We can’t expect a different outcome if we keep doing the same things. Change requires different actions. My private sessions are a collaborative process where we work together to figure out what it is that you need so you can thrive in your life and at work. If this is something that resonates with you, I’d love to chat further to see how I can help.